Marriages always seem to start off with high hopes and dreams of living happily ever after. The romance level is high and the passion for each other is unmatched. So it’s no surprise many married couples firmly believe they will never drift apart, til death do they part.
Today, that is not true for half of the marriages. As soon as their bond is tested they quickly throw up their hands in defeat and throw in the towel. There are many problems that can put a marriage to the test. The more common problems are:
1. Financial issues
2. Children giving trouble
3. Stress from work
4. Issues in the bedroom
Research has shown that most married people try to make it through marriage problems by trying their hardest to ignore these problems in their marriage. Almost as if they expect these problems to just vanish after a while, but if you never face these problems it will lead you down the road to separation and divorce.
These are 4 things you need to know in order to make it through marriage problems.
1. Find ways to grow your love:
Apart from all the obvious reasons why problems arise in a marriage. If your love is not growing for your partner and vice versa then the bond in your relationship isn’t getting any stronger. This leaves the door wide open for petty and irrelevant arguments to break your already weak bond. It is important to break down the barriers preventing this growth in love.
2. Communicating With Love:
Many people in marriage already know communication is key. However, they are not communicating with love and compassion. Instead they are communicating with anger and an attitude. When married couples start communicating because they have to it’s a big problem. A married couple should want to communicate with each other, or other wise their communication will be filled with empty words. Communicating with love carries a lot more weight. When you start communicating with love and stop communicating with hostility, you will then begin to break down these barriers blocking your love from growing.
3. Calm Down The Argument:
Many arguments in a marriage are petty. Married couples often find themselves arguing about small issues like house hold chores, bad habits they might have, or things that really just aren’t not that serious. These are surface problems and often mean there is a much larger problem in the marriage. When you have heated arguments about such small issues, the real problems aren’t getting talked about. However, once you calm the argument down you have the ability to find out what is truly bothering your partner.
4. Be Wrong
Arguing (along with money) is one of the biggest problems a marriage faces and when both people in a marriage want to win every argument the result is a bitter divorce. Some married couples don’t even know why their arguing. All they care about is proving a point and being able to feel like they won the argument. Once you begin to understand that being right all the time doesn’t matter, you will be able to talk with your partner properly.
Karen Holston is a relationship counselor and is an expert on helping people make it through marriage problems. Karen strives to help people better their marriage situation and save marriage from divorce. Did you know 75% of married couples make 3 mistakes that causes a lifetime of problems in their marriage? Can you afford to make these mistakes in your marriage? Expert advice can help you avoid making these mistakes and promote a healthy marriage.